I will start with gay romance. This was the hardest for me to get my mind around. You could have called me a homophobe when I was younger. I feared being associated with gays. If you socialized with them, did that make you one? I can only say the following things about gay romance.
It is none of my business what you do in the bedroom.
If you have a long loving relationship, you may be doing better than many heterosexual marriages.
My good friend, writer Patricia Logan, who is not gay, but writes gay romance said it best. If you condemn them, you are saying God is mistake prone. Not sure you want to say God is mistake prone. Biology and DNA has shown no one makes a choice to be gay. Tell me; how many would deliberately choose such a lifestyle? In ancient times, it would have been saying, “OK, go ahead, I am, stone me now!”
The Naughty Philosopher never wants to discuss this again.
Interracial Romance- This all started with my good friend, Cassandre Dayne’s post about it.
Growing up, the Naughty Philosopher didn’t think about about marriage. Dating was certainly better if the young lady was Jewish.
I didn’t date much and really didn’t expect to get married, but I can tell you one thing: Interracial marriage was definitely not proper. Guess Who’s Coming to Dinner was not going to happen in my parent’s house.
I could have friends across racial lines, but dating someone from another race? I suspect it was considered so out of bounds, no one thought the subject would ever have to be brought up.
I remember the first book comedian John Cleese of Monty Python wrote with his therapist, Doctor Robin Skynner, Families and How to Survive Them. The first question asked was “Why and how do people get married?” John Cleese thought how people fell in love bordered on the occult. Dr. Skynner asked him if he would prefer to return to an earlier age, when marriages were arranged for sensible reasons, such as joining wealthy families for land and political reasons. A poor peasant family might ask was the potential spouse a good worker and provider. Love was considered the proverbial wrench in the works.
Obviously, groups have mixed through history. Now we are getting into a conversation, which is less valid with what we know about DNA. There is no such thing a “pure” race. I read Dr. Henry Louis Gates‘ book American Lives. As he put it, we are killing each other over 0.5% in the human genome. Seems like too much work.
Having set that, let me quote another writer friend, Sessha Batto. “Color blind, agnostic and gender blind – it’s hard enough to find someone you click with, why put artificial constraints on it?”
I just finished an interracial marriage. I laughingly blame my friend and fellow Saguaro Romance Writers chapter member Alica McKenna Johnson. It will be out soon.